* Have clear rules or boundaries laid out that your children understand.  

* Decide what you will do BEFORE an incident- "If she throws an object, or hits, I will respond by putting her into 'time out' without engaging her."  

* Follow through on your rules  

* Redirect young children's behaviors to ones you approve of instead of telling them what they can't do- "Instead of banging the car on the table, let's play with it on the floor.”  

* Limit choices- two is usually enough  

* Get children involved in the creation of routines  

* Acknowledge positive behaviors- have children earn activities they enjoy